THE DARK SIDE We both embrace our light and our dark because there is no light without dark and no dark without light. |
An indepth conversation about humanity made this site come to life and what we came up with, we wanted to share. It is all about humanity and all that goes with it. We have the gifts of love, happiness, kindness and all that is good inside each of us. But along with the light there is the dark. Because we are human, we have flaws, we hurt, we get angry, we fight and many other qualities we see in the world today. It is because we are dependent on one another and don't realize it. Our souls are all connected and with that connection comes dependence. As Thomas Moore says in my favorite book, "Care of the Soul", with dependence comes neediness, inferiority, submission and loss of control and as we walk the path on this journey of life, as much as we want to shine our light to help bring about love, peace, unity, and harmony into the Universe, we also have to understand the dark side of humanity and learn how we can minimize it within ourselves. Someone I lost touch with told me about the book and what I read was not what I was taught to believe but somehow it all made sense. It was like the glue to all the parts in my mind that seems separated but came together after I read it. It was an honor and fortunate to have had that person in my life for the time he was in it and I will always remember him fondly and grateful for the lessons he taught me. He showed me what true love really was. Along my journey, thus far, I have found some people love to live with the light and shine it all day long, while others love the dark side of themselves. Most people live with a balance of both, some darker days than others with some lighter days thrown in. Those who are stuck in the dark, have something within themselves they have not resolved and are either ignoring it by denial or may have pushed it so far down that they don't realize it is still there. If they only knew that if they acknowledge it, it would go away. What we have to understand is that it is ok to embrace the dark. No, that is wrong. We should embrace our dark. How can we know light, if we do not know the dark? We are told that we are to be happy all the time. How is that possible? We know anger, we know pain, we know death. What could be darker than when the light is turned off permanently? That is why harmony and balance is critical in our lives. Mother Nature is the perfect example of that. She gives us day and night; our light and dark. Think about times that were happy and carefree. How did you feel? Light, airy and full of hope for the future. Singing or humming to yourself or finding that you want to start skipping instead of walking. Now reflect on the days that you felt rejected, hurt, ignored, and worst of all, unacknowledged. You merely exists that day or days. How did you feel? It was definitely not light and airy and you probably found that being indoors with the curtain shut tight was more comforting than being outside with the sun shining down on you. And honestly, what is wrong with that, once in a while? We are taught to keep our emotions in check. Take a pill to calm yourself or to make yourself feel better. Pills to dull or numb the pain so that we can go on or just sleep. Come on! Why is it so wrong to show emotion? When you are sad, cry. If you are angry, dammit, be angry! Just don't hurt anyone including yourself. If you are depressed about something, stay in bed and sleep it off. If you are happy and want to dance, sing and skip all around, then do it! We have been given gifts of emotions and why we can't use them all of them, just boggles the mind. Just as a side note, during those times you are feeling depresses or lonely and you feel you may need help, find someone to talk to. Therapist, Life Coach, a good friend, anyone that you trust to let you vent and say things without judgement. Sometimes, just letting it out, straight and simple, makes you feel better, whether you are sad, mad or depressed. The more you bottle up, the more you feel bad and the longer you do it, the more your mind and soul are pulled down until you get to a place that you feel that you cannot come out of. Embrace it then let it go. Life is meant to be lived fully, completely, every day. We go through experiences so that at the end, we are blessed with lessons that hopefully we learn from and can pass on to others. So I ask... how do you embrace your dark as you shine your light? |